Hook-up culture makes it hard to see anything else, aside from whether your potential one-night stand has an awesome body or knows exactly what to say. When you listen to your friends, you get mixed messages. However, there is always that comfort of knowing that your best friend is your best friend for a reason and no matter what, they love you on a different level than they love everyone else. The awkwardness: You don't know how to keep things professional and work with him or her on a daily basis without having flashbacks of that night. Leaving questions like these unanswered could make it awkward, with both of you not really knowing how to act around each other.
As soon as you realize that this scenario is not for you, it is better to bail and keep the tight bond of friendship that was there before. But making out with your girlfriends can lead to just as excruciating an aftermath as a one-nighter with your guy friend. Even if he looks like, say, Andrew Garfield trust me, babe, I would find that difficult as well , there are plenty of other players in the game. Your friends will all have their own opinions on what you are going through. Knowledge Is Not Power You know so much about your best friend. Does anyone really think that's a compliment? He strung you along while he had a girlfriend — which should be enough of a warning sign for you to keep your distance.
Beauty is less than skin deep. We broke it off…and we drifted apart naturally. Hooking up often means that returning to being just good friends is not easy. Also—imagine 10 years down the road, by then it will be a quaint and faded memory; that kind of visualization can also defuse it and turn it into something less 'unseemly' and something that just happened. We all have that one friend, co-worker, classmate, etc. Moreover, if you're mean to him, he might go around town telling everyone that he had sex with you and that you were bad in bed. The truth is that girls will be girls and boys will be boys, and we will all talk.
There is a good chance that this situation could be a simple one and done. One problem: the friend zone is now locked. You might even forget the night that the two of you got down and dirty. On the other hand, the drunken one-night stand from last weekend might not exactly be marriage material, but the lack of emotional connection could lead to a less complicated friendship down the line. Be nice to everyone, even if they don't deserve it.
Was there always sexual tension between the two of you and this was just a long time coming? You went from being total bros to seeing each other naked and touching body parts you didn't even believe existed on his body. It almost always ends in some kind of complication, ranging from heartbreak to total breakdown. Choose the right person Not everyone you date or sleep with is going to be cut out to stay friends in the long run. What to consider before you hook up Before the actual hook-up happens, there are a couple important things to consider. You only have to date them if you want to. Love Is Precious You love your best friend, so why would you want to distort and mess with feelings by casually hooking up? Hook-up culture was supposed to liberate us, right? He chooses when he wants to come in and out of your life, dictates the boundaries of your relationship, and hits you up only when he feels like it. There could have been many reasons for the hookup: feeling lonely, hadn't had sex in a while, you were drunk, you just felt like it.
After all, it was just a one-time thing, right? There is a good chance that both of you will see the situation differently and laugh about how different you both interpreted the memorable night. A freak in the sheets and a bitch on the streets. Acting like Saturday was only a dream seems like an easy way out. As crazy as it sounds, hooking up is a good way to explore your sexuality and find out what you like and don't like -- with a rubber on, of course. The awkwardness: That one cute frat guy you were always eyeing finally talked to you. So it could happen again if you let it and want it to.
First, Figure Out What You Want From This Before taking any other steps to contain this situation, figure out why the heck you hooked up with your best friend in the first place and what you want to come of it. However, there is not only a negative side to hooking up; there is a way to make hooking up with your friend a lasting, loving, exciting endeavor. I know I should let go of him but my heart says no. Having a guy best friend is awesome. Q: So, I first hooked up with this guy in my class a few weeks ago and a couple times since.
They know everything there is to know about you, so they may as well see you naked! Are you still allowed to have a relationship with them? Shakespeare was no dummy, and he still lived in a time when arranged marriages were the norm. Chances are if you are best friends with a guy, he has thought about sleeping with you, touching you in an appropriate manner, and he has even thought about dating you. A Co-Worker Getting it on with someone from the office is up for debate. As long as you don't spread their sexy secrets around and treat each other well, there's not reason to move on. You can have those lovely butterflies that make you happy and excited to be around them, you can build even more memories once you let your inhibitions fly and best yet, you can have an even better friendship as long as there are no hard feelings between one another.
Address your hookup as soon as possible and once you talk it through, get back to being bros and feeling comfortable around him. This means discussing if you want to tell your other friends, if it was a one-time thing or if you have feelings for each other. Everyone knows their positions and nobody is unhappy. One night, when it was just the two of you, things became tense. I am really bad with men -- really bad -- and I need someone to be honest with me about how he is feeling, or if he's not interested. Getting over a relationship is hard to do, and it doesn't really matter how long you were with the person — it can still hurt to even just think about them. It could completely ruin your friendship and you may never talk to that person again.